Best Man's Speech Checklist

Points you may like to include:

The traditional best man's beginning often involves thanking the bride and groom for their gifts and compliments to 'the team' of bridesmaids, ushers, page boys etc.

Near the start, you might want to tell some behind-the-scenes stories about preparing for the wedding - especially any amusing incidents, narrowly averted disasters etc.

Make a point of addressing the couple, and especially of talking to and about the bride. Too many best man's speeches almost entirely overlook her.

The traditional main task is to “embarrass” the groom. Your material should be funny without being nasty and risqué without being offensive. Props are often used here, and stories - or hints at stories - from the stag night often crop up.

It can seem like a good idea to mention past relationships, but tread carefully. The golden rule: if there's a chance it might upset the bride, leave it out. Leaven the mockery with some sincerity. Talk about how you met the groom, how you came to be best mates, how much you really think of him, your perspective on the growing relationship between bride and groom, how he behaved differently with her (the moment I knew it was serious...), your best wishes for their future together etc.

Read any telegrams and other messages from invited guests unable to attend the wedding after your main speech.

Conclude with a toast to the bride and groom.

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