Creating the Perfect List

Start by asking everyone involved to make a rough list, then start pruning! Ultimately, whoever is paying for the wedding should have the final say on numbers, but really, the hosts and couple should have the final say on who makes the cut!

You should add the names of the minister and his or her partner to your list as a matter of courtesy and when it comes to working out numbers, make sure you include all members of the wedding party – people sometimes forget to add themselves!

If you have relatives who you know won't be able to make it on the day, you obviously don't need to include them on your guest list, but make sure you send them an invitation anyway. Many people, in particular very elderly relatives, really appreciate this gesture - it shows that you haven't just forgotten or ignored them.

Reception only?

One way round the problem of having too many friends, is to invite those who cannot be fitted in at the ceremony (if the register office is too small, for example) to the reception only. No one should take offence at this arrangement. It's not a cheap solution though and the major factor for limiting numbers may well be cost rather than space. Another solution is for some people to be invited to join in the evening only, if that is an option.

Selecting your wedding invitations

The wedding invitation will give your guests the first impression of your wedding, so it's important to choose a design you feel reflects your day.